One of the things I struggled with during my adolescence and still now as a young adult are thoughts of not being good enough. What happens is that I contemplate why my life is and isn’t a certain way. I question why my career goals aren’t manifesting the way I would hope. I question the feelings of loneliness or seeking more meaning out of life. The first thing that will come to mind is that maybe, I’m not good enough? Maybe I’m not good enough to have the career I seek, the relationship or adventures out of life? Being in that state is like sinking in this hole that’s depleting you. Fortunately, over time, I’ve started to value myself more. I’ve learned how to shake off these lying thoughts that utter “You’re not Good Enough.” Below, I share my tips on improving your self-perception.
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Affirm Good Qualities about You
When I’m in a negative state, disturbed by circumstances, it’s easy to knock myself down. But that doesn’t help me in any way. So I’ve learned to start speaking positively to myself. I affirm good qualities about myself. I also tell myself that I am worthy and deserving of the life I seek. I’m deserving and worthy of a great job, relationship and life experiences. Even if I might not believe it the moment I say it, reminding myself of this and constantly repeating it uplifts me. Negative talk is drowning but positive affirmations is coming up for air.
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Think of Something You’re Proud of or Grateful For
A great way to shake off that feeling of not being good enough is to consider the things you’ve been able to do. Also, it helps to remember what you have to be grateful for. When I’m overwhelmed with thoughts of not being good enough, I remind myself of how far I’ve come. I remind myself of how hard I’ve worked. I remind myself of the moments I step out of my comfort zone. I remind myself of how I continue to embrace change.
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When the things we want in our lives aren’t manifesting, when we are uncertain about our skills and abilities, it becomes easy to conclude that we’re not good enough. Thoughts like that can break you so over time, I’ve learned how to free myself from such thoughts by affirming good qualities about me. I free myself by encouraging myself and remembering what I’ve been able to do that I’m proud of. In my new post, I write about how to shake off negative and lying thoughts so you’ll know the truth: You are Good Enough. ⠀ Check out the post on 👉🏾reflecteveryday.com 😊 .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #thursdaythoughts #thursdaywritings #bloggers #instabloggers #motivation #inspiration #writing #writers #nigerianbloggers #nigerianwriters #nigeria #africa #selfhelp #personaldevelopment #motivationblogger #motivationmondays #blackgirls #blackwomen #mentalhealth #blackgirksrock #workwear #workoutfits #outfitinspiration #outfitideas
I have learned to encourage myself to shake off negative thoughts. I tell myself that things will be alright. I tell myself that I’m doing the best I can do. I tell myself to be patient. I tell myself that God has a great plan for me so I should not give up on myself and my dreams. I have to encourage myself in order to gain confidence. You have to be your cheer squad.
I hope this post helps you if you’re struggling with your self-worth. I understand that feeling of not being good enough and I hope you will come to know that You are enough. You are good enough. You matter. You can have happiness. You can have love. You can find work that brings you joy.
That is all.