The internet and social media can be both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, the internet exposes us to much information. It helps us to be aware and informed on what is going on around us. It can educate and motivate us. On the other hand, the internet can feel overwhelming. We are bombarded by information. Everything is shared and in a multitude of platforms. This can lead us to compare our lives with others. This can lead us to question our worth. To question our path and goals. This can become overwhelming. So I have some tips on how to not get overwhelmed with comparisons.
Please Unplug Once In a While
We have to learn to not constantly be on social media every single second. It’s not easy. Some of you might say your lively hood depends on it. Some of you say it’s the best way to keep in touch. I get it. Social media has its benefits but I find that not being on all the time helps me to relax. I can go hours, a day, a weekend without it. I’ll read. I’ll write. My mind will not be on what everyone is doing but on where I am and how I’m doing at the present moment.
I think we need to learn to unplug once in a while and just be with ourselves. If not, you might find yourself unable to stop being captivated by the lives of others. We have to learn to focus on ourselves and solitude. Try it. Unplug for some time.
To be realistic means to accept that we are all human. It is to accept that life presents challenges to everyone. It is to know that no one is immune to some form of pain or suffering.
So though on the outside, someone else life might look perfect, it does not mean it is. It does not mean that person does not still have their own challenges. When we are going through a hard time, we think that no one else gets it. Everyone else is enjoying because we see them smiling. But that is not true because we are human and that means that life happens to us all. In little or big ways, we fall, we hurt, we cry, we suffer. Life happens to us all.
Give Yourself A Break
We can be so hard on ourselves. Sometimes when I think about my goals, I compare myself to where other people are who have what I aim for. It can make me feel like a failure. It can make me feel as though I’m not moving at the right pace. But who decides what’s the right pace? Aren’t we all just doing what we can? Who has it all figured out?
I am learning to give myself a break. To stop judging myself and comparing myself to others. To pat myself on the back for my efforts. I’ve learned to compliment myself on my progress. I’ve learned to remind myself that it’s okay to fail. It’s okay to make mistakes because that’s how you learn. I’ve learned to remind myself that it’s okay if I don’t have it all because we are all on our own path. We are all learning the lessons that life brings us.
So stop thinking things aren’t happening for you quickly. Stop fussing over feeling behind. You are on your own path, uniquely designed by God for you. Just live. Try your best. Fall. Get back Up. Try again and don’t forget to relax. It’s life after all.
Do you have tips on how to not get overwhelmed with comparisons?